Relationship Advice for Women
Q1: I hate the dating games that men play. I don’t know how to deal with momentary flings or someone who gets too clingy?
As a relationship advice and dating advice for women in the real world, I would like to say there is no one out there with lots of time to know what you want. We women love to hide in our shells and play the ‘guess my feelings’ game. Sadly, in the real world, you’ve got to speak up. Selective mutism (not speaking up when necessary) is not going to be entertained in a man’s world. Men by nature, are not mind readers as they themselves like to be cajoled and listened to. Hence, when a man is making his moves on you, make it very clear about what you want and what you are expecting. This will save the time and effort for both of you and save the trouble of having strings attached or cutting the strings, whatever be the case.
Q2: My husband never bothers to listen to what I have got to say. Neither does he take any decisions around the house. How am I to know what he wants?
From the olden times of your grand-mother to your mother and now to yours, the situation to men being indecisive about home affairs has remained the same. This stems from the fact, that the primal instinct of men is to be a protector, provider and possessor. And the role of a woman, is that of a ‘homemaker’ (sorry, if I am getting too cynical). It’s with these instincts that we act as a couple. Thus, when it comes to taking a decision regarding home affairs, he will always respect your decision, support it and will help you if it’s not wrong. That’s exactly what he will do, because that’s exactly what he wants. The other problem of not being a listener is rooted in the fact, that men procrastinate. Yes, they need to be pushed a little, but not nagged.
Q3: I am seeing this guy for a month and I’ve always stopped him from getting to the third base. I am scared things will get further than that. How do I tell him my dilemma?
Hmmm…we all go though this. Don’t we? The ‘right time’ may be right there in front of us, but certainty of it, is always uncertain. As relationship advice for girls, especially below 18, I suggest, keep this moment for later, when you are aware of what you are doing. Right now 18 may just seem a number to you, but trust me, you will ripe in your understanding with years that pass by. For girls above the age of 18, there is nothing wrong in feeling the way you are feeling. He may be coming on too strong for you, but stop him there, talk it out to him, share your fears and things will workout. If he really cares for you, he will understand you. Read more…